'How am I supposed to look at my son?' 'Leave him out of this. You're not doing this for him or for me. It's all about you. It's always been about you.' The movie Men of Honour film charts Carl Brashear’s superhuman determination and courage in a deeply prejudiced and officially segregated US Navy. It’s also a master class in the Man Code; - A father’s well intentioned efforts to equip his son for an unfair world. - Never asking for help - Two men who develop a deep respect and trust for one anothe

BECOME YOUR DAD. Deliver long, boring, interminable lectures on a variety of subjects like work ethic, trust, success etc then round it off by reminding him that you’ve said this so many times that you’re actually boring yourself thus torpedoing any chance of being taken seriously. BECOME YOUR TEENAGE SELF by simultaneously closing off to any useful advice from friends and family. Decide not to tell them he ‘went to the park’ ten hours ago and isn’t answering your calls because it’ll just make

The Legend Izanagi was a Shinto deity whose exploits are documented in the Kojiki, a manuscrpt dating from 711 AD. It chronicles his epic journey through the Land of the Dead in search of his wife. He battled all manner of demons and zombies only to find that she was already dead. He fought his way back out through the caverns of hell. Immediately upon his escape he dove into a freezing river to purify himself. In so doing he achieved a state of sumikiri, a pure clarity of mind and body. It removed all h

MIchael Phelps is the greatest Olympic athlete of all time. When he was interviewed following his eight gold medals in Beijing he said that he and his Coach had placed some big deposits in the account ahead of the games and that they had enabled him to make some big withdrawls. ‘There are only pennies left there right now,’ he said with a grin. His words came back to me the other day while writing a piece on the work life balance and the fact that, for me, this model does not make much allowance for

1 Fire! Only one moment of manly epicness can be greater than effortlessly lighting a fire in the outdoors, and that is doing it when people are depending on you. With a few easily mastered skills you too can bask in the metaphorical — and literal — glow of this achievement. Have you ever seen a collie dog meeting sheep for the first time? They know, deep down, that there is something tremendously important that they are supposed to do. They’re just not quite sure how to go about it. A lot of the m

It’s not his fault. Guys, its our fault too. Andrew Tate is portrayed as the bogeyman responsible for a generation of dissafected disenfranchised, angry young men. Perhaps I was lucky but I grew up in a world where male role models werent just on TV they lived among us. Men who were physically strong, worked hard, treated women with courtesy and respect. They could fix anything and if you were foolish enough to cross them you certainly wouldnt do it a second time. You never saw them drunk and if they ne